Getting Better All the Time

Things are looking up. It's a warm, sunny day and I just completed a project that has been making me crazy for about a week now. One of our clients requested some information that...oops...we don't keep track of it that way. Our software won't allow us to keep track of it in the format they need. I've been pleading with my co-workers, beating my head against the wall, being generally frustrated and stressed about the whole thing. Finally, I gave them a reasonable facsimile of the type of data they requested. I've now washed my hands of the whole matter. It's tough to have to be back at work, but it's a whole lot better than losing my job because I'm never here.

I just started a new book, Touching the Void. It speaks to my need to find people who've overcome tremendous odds. Their struggles make my own difficulties seem small in comparison. My most recent inspiration came from a program I watched on The Learning Channel about a woman who was born with tiny little legs and no arms. She became pregnant accidentally. It chronicled her journey through pregnancy and the birth of her son. She's tough, determined and a very loving mom. When I told her about it, my therapist tactfully pointed out the extremes to which I have to go in order to find bigger hardships than those I've faced all of my life, and that I continue to battle.

My emotional state has improved a lot. I'm able to crawl out of my black hole into a slightly smaller one and stop being so depressed and miserable. You know how I hate that feeling sad thing. I'm sure I'll revisit it, many times, but I'm grateful for the break. I'm now trying to re-learn how to stand up straight. If I could start doing yoga again, it would help tremendously, but my energy level is miniscule. Speaking of which, time to go lie down for a while.

It's a Marathon, Not a Sprint

Sometime early in my treatment for breast cancer, I saw an M.D. Anderson oncologist who had been diagnosed himself with a rare type of cancer. He said, "Cancer is a marathon, not a sprint." "Oh yeah," I thought. "Of course it is." I knew I'd be having a mastectomy, several months of chemotherapy and a course of radiation treatment. Seemed like a marathon to me, but a marathon I was steeling myself to get through. I thought I had gotten through it.

It wasn't until the reconstruction surgery that I really hit the wall in the marathon. Forcing myself to go on requires more strength than I think I have on any given day. I just sort of wander through life in a daze, focused on pain. I sit on the sofa. I lie down on the bed. I sit on the sofa some more. This takes stamina. It takes stamina to continue to feel the pain and not be able to crawl out of your own skin. If I could just take a break from my body, I could get back to the suffering with renewed spirit.

The people in my life tell me that it's no surprise to them that I'm feeling this way. I guess what I'd truly like is for someone to say something that will make this all more bearable. Telling me they're not surprised isn't it. I'm surprised. I thought I had endless stores of patience and stamina to call upon. I've been practicing for this all of my life, really. Unfortunately, it turns out that I didn't have quite enough practice, after all.

The sun is shining here today. That's something good. I still have hair. That's pretty good, too. Ditto the new breast stump. Every day I look for things to be grateful for and every day I can find quite a few. Sadly, after I've counted them and ruminated on them, I find myself back where I started. I've hit the wall and there's at least another ten miles to go.